DO YOU FEAR REJECTION?
I’ve just had a huge epiphany. It was so big, that I had to jump on my computer and share this with you. This is is something that I might share later on with people in another form, but I really wanted you to get to know this BEFORE ANYBODY ELSE.
Because you’ve taken the time to read this, and to me that means you are special.I recently have been doing a lot of investigation on the dreaded… FEAR OF FAILURE.The fear of failure comes through in many ways. You might be too afraid to ask that guy out, or go for a date…. or you might be too afraid to go for a job interview. Whatever it is, it is a fear that things might not go the way you want.
Because if things don’t go the way we want them to… it might be painful! So, I have been doing a lot of investigation in this, because if you’re like me, you want a solution to this. Not one of those solutions that just tell you to “relax and breath” but a REAL solution, with tangible results! The truth is, though, we have to break it down one more step, and to understand the fear of failure… it has to be understood at ONE…. more… level. So, how else can we re-evaluate the fear of failure as….
It’s the fear that things won’t go perfectly.
….. …. I’ll let that settle in for a second. Yes, that’s right… the fear that thing won’t go perfectly.
Think of it this way… if there’s a guy you like, and you really want it to work out and you’re afraid it might not… there’s a fear that it won’t go perfectly.
So, then, what’s the solution?
In the past, when I used to coach men confidence skills, I’ve seen other coaches teach them to “try and ruin it” because that would remove that fear, but that really doesn’t help. A better solution is to UPGRADE what you want because perfection is the lowest standard you can ever have. There’s no such thing as perfect, and perfect differs from person to person. Instead, a better standard to have is “growth” and “learning.” If you can learn to be grateful for any moment in your life, and ask yourself “did I grow in this situation?” or “did I learn?” then your mindset will SHIFT DRASTICALLY. It’s that ability to see the extraordinary in the ordinary and detach yourself from perfection. That guy that you want to text but can’t…. we’ll shift your mindset to be about learning. “let’s try sending him this message! see if that works.” You’ll become a scientist… trying things out and seeing what works. I know that kind of sounds sterile, but it’s true! How did you learn to walk? You became a scientist of walking! You got up, tried to step forward… and fell over again! You repeated the action till you understood it at a level that you didn’t need to think about. Children are the greatest scientists that exists. My brother is currently raising his 1.5-year-old daughter, and her brain is learning and adapting faster than so many adults I meet on a day to day basis.
So to conclude, do you want to be someone who is capable of conquering fear? Do you want to be somebody who is able to message anybody and try out new things? Do you want to be the kind of person who is fearless and attracts people into their life BECAUSE of that fearlessness?
Do you want to be somebody who is paralysed by fear and leaves things up to chance?
Just remember, and keep this message when you if you can…
Your life will become perfect the moment you stop trying to make it perfect.
Thank you so much for reading this, and thank you for being apart of this journey with me