How to Date Multiple People – Ask Harvey #57


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Let’s talk about multi-dating!

That thing that people do sometimes!

I feel like it is an unspoken taboo, yet people all the time do it and there are plenty of reasons TO do it!

If you don’t know what I mean by that, it’s simply this:


It’s not bad. It’s not wrong. It definitely does not break any sacred rules!

The thing is, the reason why I’m bringing this up is that, just like anything else in life, it comes down to what you want.


The thing is, it’s all about what you want.

If you want more experience, then dating multiple people is great! If you genuinely like that, then having that is GREAT!

I’ll tell you what isn’t great? Judging people for it. That and thinking that you’re breaking some kind of cosmic law for doing it.

YOU’RE HUMAN! Do what humans do! Make mistakes. Learn from them. This is why I don’t tend to look at relationships as “Open” or “closed/exclusive.” It’s too harsh and too closed off.

I tend to look at them like “FENCED” or “UNFENCED.”

Fenced meaning that you have rules and boundaries that you have both agreed on. Isn’t that nice?

Unfenced means that you don’t.

It’s to this extent that you can have an exclusive relationship and still invite other people in for various forms of play, and you can have an open relationship and just choose not to exercise it.

Fenced = agreed upon rules
Unfenced = no rules or agreed upon no rules.


A new video, and a bloody good one at that!

In this video, we discuss how to go about it, and what’s the best way that if you’ve decided to go down this path, that you leave everybody in a better place. We also discuss some mindsets, and some things that you can do to make it work for you, so you can have the best possible time.

Until next time!

Make sure to think differently about life and love!

Your Coach and Guide to Love Xx
Sharam Namdarian


This is a HUMAN THING. You’re not a slut if you’re a woman for dating multiple people and you’re not a player if you’re a man for doing it either.

I think we as a human race have transcended that, and we can create meanings behind it and make it special. If you think you’re a slut for doing this and it’s something you want to do, make it a badge of honour and find acceptance. WE ARE HUMANS first and foremost, so let’s do that and realise that words have meanings that we can interpret our own way. If they have that, then we can choose what we are called and how we want to receive those words!

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