You are dating somebody who just can’t commit, so you try and try and try and try and try and try and TRY to make it work, but no matter what you do that person just doesn’t want to!
Well, this week on Youtube we spoke about it, but honestly, I want to speak NOW about various reasons why a guy won’t commit.
But before I get into that, I want you to know one thing. THIS IS NOT A MAN THING.
It is not encoded into men not to commit, this is not a thing. It is easy to think that if you keep dating guy after guy and after guy after guy who does that, I get it, but when I work with men as well, they also are talking about how women won’t commit also.
Isn’t that weird huh?
Ok, so the first major reason why guys won’t commit, is that they genuinely don’t want to be in a relationship with you. They like having you around, they don’t like NOT having you around, but that’s about it.
You then get stuck in a weird little limbo space that is, honestly, quite detrimental to your self-esteem. That’s like saying you’re good enough to get an A+ on a test in school but not good enough to get a sticker! You bloody earned that sticker!
The second major reason why he won’t commit is that what you want and what he wants are just two different things. This usually happens when the two people in the relationship aren’t fully expressing themselves. You want one thing, he wants another and it ends up as an emotional tug of war until one person just yells,
“DO YOU WANT ME OR NOT!”
“Do you want what I want or NOT!”
The THIRD major reason why he won’t commit is that he isn’t picking up what you’re putting down. In the sense that what you want is just not in alignment with him. This is similar to the second major reason for a subtle reason. If this is the case, it’s only a matter of vibration, and I find this is the major reason. If this is the case, it means the relationship isn’t destined to be doomed!
Now, in this week’s youtube video, we talk about commitment issues with such great detail I’d be surprised if you have any questions afterwards! I answered YOUR questions!