Are you always pushing the relationship forward?
I’ve said this many times before, but we show people how to be in relationships with us. Our words, our actions and also what we DON’T SAY AND WHAT WE DON’T DO.
So, if you know me, and I hope you do, you’ll know that I hate playing games. Playing games can be this incredibly exhausting thing that actually often don’t get people anywhere.
Instead, we always want to focus on raw expression and communication, and the measurement of communication is whether or not the other person received it or not, so when it comes to DATING and RELATIONSHIPS and you are ALWAYS pushing the relationship forward, chances are you ACTIONS and WORDS are not communicating this properly.
You’re not communicating to him your needs and how one of your biggest needs would be to have him love and support you (and maybe take some action once in a while).
So, the question then is, HOW DO WE GET HIM TO DO THAT FOR YOU?
How can we get him to start taking the lead.
Well, for one thing, I have to tell you, if you’re always pushing the relationship forward (by yourself) then, as we established earlier, you’re basically showing him that it’s ok if he relaxes etc.
But, there is one thing here that I want to express to you deeply here, is that it isn’t a big deal. I don’t mean to put down how you’re feeling, but it isn’t a big deal because we can CHANGE IT! We can change it instantly!
We don’t have to worry about how to get him to chase you and how to get him to appreciate your time more if he IS ALREADY DOING IT RIGHT?
I mean, if he spent some time doing stuff that you liked, maybe this wouldn’t be such a big deal?
So, instead of worrying about how to get him to chase you, I am going to give you the solution.
The solution (and remember, I do not like games, but I LOVE communication) is to learn how to take a step back.
That step back is a simple thing though, it’s not a giant step back. It might be to start to message him slightly less or take some time to respond. What this creates is ROOM.
When you create ROOM for somebody, then they get to fill it. If you are trying to make things happen then you aren’t giving them the room to actually start to like you.
But…. don’t take my word for it, try it out for yourself. Take some time to try it out and watch the video below! That will really give you some greater insights into HOW to step back and how to do it in a way that will get him coming back to you more.